Many Americans are familiar with The Little Prince, a
wonderful book by Antoine de Saint-Exupery. This is a
whimsical and fabulous book and works as a children's story
as well as a thought-provoking adult fable. Far fewer are
aware of Saint-Exupery's other writings, novels and short
stories.
Saint-Exupery was a fighter pilot who fought against
the Nazis and was killed in action. Before World War II, he
fought in the Spanish Civil War against the fascists. He
wrote a fascinating story based on that experience entitled
The Smile (Le Sourire). It is this story which I'd like to
share with you now. It isn't clear whether or not he meant
this to be autobiographical or fiction. I choose to believe
it to be the former.
He said that he was captured by the enemy and thrown
into a jail cell. He was sure that from the contemptuous
looks and rough treatment he received from his jailers he
would be executed the next day. From here, I'll tell the
story as I remember it in my own words.
"I was sure that I was to be killed. I became terribly
nervous and distraught. I fumbled in my pockets to see if
there were any cigarettes which had escaped their search. I
found one and because of my shaking hands, I could barely
get it to my lips. But I had no matches, they had taken
those.
"I looked through the bars at my jailer. He did not
make eye contact with me. After all, one does not make eye
contact with a thing, a corpse. I called out to him 'Have
you got a light, por favor?' He looked at me, shrugged and
came over to light my cigarette.
"As he came close and lit the match, his eyes
inadvertently locked with mine. At that moment, I smiled. I
don't know why I did that. Perhaps it was nervousness,
perhaps it was because, when you get very close, one to
another, it is very hard not to smile. In any case, I
smiled. In that instant, it was as though a spark jumped
across the gap between our two hearts, our two human souls.
I know he didn't want to, but my smile leaped through the
bars and generated a smile on his lips, too. He lit my
cigarette but stayed near, looking at me directly in the
eyes and continuing to smile.
"I kept smiling at him, now aware of him as a person
and not just a jailer. And his looking at me seemed to have
a new dimension, too. 'Do you have kids?' he asked.
" 'Yes, here, here.' I took out my wallet and nervously
fumbled for the pictures of my family. He, too, took out the
pictures of his ninos and began to talk about his plans and
hopes for them. My eyes filled with tears. I said that I
feared that I'd never see my family again, never have the
chance to see them grow up. Tears came to his eyes, too.
"Suddenly, without another word, he unlocked my cell
and silently led me out. Out of the jail, quietly and by
back routes, out of the town. There, at the edge of town, he
released me. And without another word, he turned back toward
the town.
"My life was saved by a smile."
Yes, the smile - the unaffected, unplanned natural
connection between people. I tell this story in my work
because I'd like people to consider that underneath all the
layers we construct to protect ourselves, our dignity, our
titles, our degrees, our status and our need to be seen in
certain ways - underneath all that, remains the authentic,
essential self. I'm not afraid to call it the soul. I really
believe that if that part of you and that part of me could
recognize each other, we wouldn't be enemies. We couldn't
have hate or envy or fear. I sadly conclude that all those
other layers, which we so carefully construct through our
lives, distance and insulate us from truly contacting
others. Saint-Exupery's story speaks of that magic moment
when two souls recognize each other.
I've had just a few moments like that. Falling in love
is one example. And looking at a baby. Why do we smile when
we see a baby? Perhaps it's because we see someone without
all the defensive layers, someone whose smile for us we know
to be fully genuine and without guile. And that baby-soul
inside us smiles wistfully in recognition.